No clue on where to start when thinking of describing 2022 as a summary of my year.
If I thought 2021 was revolutionary, pufffff I had no idea the type (in a good and not so good way) reality check I would get this year in many ways.
I’ve lived all type of emotions and felt all of them so lively.
I destroyed myself in (almost) every way possible, and then rebuilt myself each type ten times better than the last.
I mean, this is basically life and natural selection, right?
Although, nothing like meeting and being in a ritual of a Sakya lineage (basically Buddha in the present world),
Being heart broken,
Losing friends,
Being at peace with my solitude,
Moving (again),
Falling back in love,
Allowing myself to be vulnerable with myself (first and most importantly), as well as with others,
Giving myself the opportunity to experience new things,
Breaking my skull (lovely story now),
Moving my body in new ways,
Learning a new language,
Getting rejected at Berghain – If you know you know – but I can proudly say I’ve tried, I’ve got the experience now, and I will get in line every Saturday until I get it hahah,
Having many many many life crisis (😅 ongoing),
And overall, I think I finish the year understanding and knowing myself way less than what I thought I knew about me.
This is something I personally find interesting since I am living with myself all the time… this is how life is, but it’s a funny paradox for it.
My motto for this year has been looking a little like:
It’s a good story for the plot. 😉
YOLO living
Okay, so to the point now;
Here is a list of the 100 things or lessons I take with myself for 2023, that all those life experiences gave me:
1. Give yourself credit for all the things you do! Because they are a lot and they all have and add up value to your life!
I tend to forget about that one, this is why it’s first!
2. You actually do WAYYYYY more than what you think you’re doing now.
3. Things breaking down is a good thing too. It is not, and it won’t be, as bad as it feels at the beginning.
4. People can be real assholes. Don’t be people.
5. Giving good, gives you good. At least, eventually it will come.
6. You don’t need to know things now. You don’t. No one expects you to do so now! This is the biggest blessing you can get, because you get to reinvent yourself everyday.
7. How I speak and nurture myself can be seen very very crystal clear from the outside (more than what you think).
8. Don’t take advice from people who aren’t where you want to be in life.
9. My biggest bummer is my laziness :/ to my creativity. AND I KNOW THIS SUCKS AND ITS SUCH A BAD HABIT OF MINE, I’m looking forward to improve.
10. No, the idea that “no problem, i will write it down in my mind and I’ll remember later” YOU WONT.
11. Ideas have expiration dates. Creativity and motivation for those too.
12. Yoga is so healing!!!!!!!
13. Don’t seek to be understood.
14. I am a fool for love. I love love.
15. Art and moving my body are my life saviors.
16. Nothing is forever.
17. People leave.
18. Briefing is shit. Absolute shit. But, it is SO necessary to be experienced for our development as human beings and to co-exist sanely on this planet.
If people didn’t grief, we would live in a shit hole, honestly.
19. Intelligence is insanely attractive – when it’s not presented in an egoistic and self absorbed manner.
This is complicated for intelligent people because it usually does that… but knowing how to detach that attitude when with others, is a great tool and power :).
20. Healing hurts as hell (real one – if there is one lol – not getting into that now tho…), but it is so rewarding in the end!!! It’s insane.
21. You didn’t catch that train? I’m sorry to hear this love, but do not worry! 🙂 another one is about to come to the station!
This isn’t about trains.
22. I am not the owner nor creator of my thoughts.
23. Yes, sometimes we do have to loose ourselves a bit in order to create a new and renovated self.
24. You are more than what you think of yourself.
25. Personally (and honestly), I came to figure out I have many valuable personal attributes that are super duper cool.
26. My age doesn’t matter most of the time. It’s a number.
27. This is the life I chose.
28. Take some time to really take a look at what type of people you attract. They come to you because of something. That says more about you than what you think.
29. My body and mind are my sacred temple and I must take care of them as such.
30. I don’t need to accept all the ideas that surround me, but I can learn something from all of them.
31. “El duelo es todo el amor que no pudiste dar en vida” (Grieving is all the love you couldn’t give in life) I think it’s so true, raw, real, honest, and crude – that it makes the quote be beautiful!
32. Impotence is one of the worst and most frustrating feelings of all.
33. Having happiness as a goal or just constantly looking for it so it stays, is giving the first wrong step for many different reasons.
34. We are blind people in the world. Blind people who see. Just as Saramago said.
35. We barely know how to connect with ourselves these days, and learning to connect with others (because of this) seems as a mission impossible with many people.
36. One day at a time.
37. No one has it figured out.
38. Having a big mouth and saying too much, many times leads you to the wrong side of things.
39. Have zero expectations, but have standards!
40. Therapy is a great decision.
41. Listen to your body and mind.
42. Reading is sexy.
43. Be thankful for every single thing you have and the ones you don’t, every. Single. Day.
44. Be nice to people. You never know what they are going through.
45. We all go through some real though shit.
46. University is the most traumatizing event, by the hand of finding a room in Berlin with anmeldung inside budget and no scams lol, of my present era.
47. Accounting is everything but fun. It’s soul dreading.
48. If you don’t say, people won’t know.
49. You don’t always have to be right and you won’t always be right.
50. Making a wrong decision is okay. If you can fix it, great! If not, sorry about this… now you have a new lesson for the future, don’t repeat it again, and see where this takes you.
51. Being educated doesn’t mean you know how to think.
52. Slovenian philosopher: … is an icon and so controversial, he is correct in many things.
53. La Fabuloux Vie au Amelie is such a fantastic movie!!!
Every hot girl dream is to be who she is.
53. Reading a book in which the main character has your name, can become very intimate very quickly as well as, eventually, devastating 😄 up to you!
54. Kafka, Sarte, Pizarnik, Camus, Murakami, Saramago, knew what they were doing.
There are more I haven’t had the chance to read :,) but soon enough I’ll do.
55. Wearing expensive brands and making it showy in excess, can make you look foolish many times… these brands don’t say something relevant about you (or yes), but they don’t define who you are.
56. Piscis people are weird. I’m a piscis lol. Not that I believe in these, but the more piscis I meet, the more I figure how weird we are and why people say that hahah.
57. Small everyday details many times say and can mean more than one giant thing.
58. Hoy determine people’s value, based on the value you perceive from yourself.
59. Everyone is a mirror from you. Specially when in relationships. We are all mirrors to each other.
60. Never let your curiosity die! You become old when you loose curiosity for life and small things, you get officially old. Stay young 😉
61. Friendly reminder you have free will lol. Yes, go and throw an egg to the other side of the stairs cause you can.
62. Respect people that surround you, can’t be lacked as a rule of thumb!
63. You can respectfully tell people to fuck off 🙂!
64. Choose wisely who you work with!!!!
65. The person you are now, is not the person you will be tomorrow! Don’t base your decisions on your present self only. You can not know who is going to be your future you, but you can just have in mind this can change – and that changes a lot of things.
66. The more you grow, the less you understand the things you thought you once did.
67. Allow yourself to dream.
68. Let your inner child out from time to time and as much as you can.
69. After you let out your inner child and heal it, your inner teenager is coming out… and she is fricking angry! (Probably) so 😅 beware with him/her/them.
70. Others peoples’ opinions on you, have no power unless you decide to give them the power.
71. Life is short.
72. Hug the people you love tight and tell them you love them. You never know when the last time you see them is.
73. You do not need to attend that place you don’t want to go. You just don’t have to.
74. Don’t drop a person that is worth it for temporary pleasures.
75. Dress as you want.
76. Anxiety is created by you. Most of the time, it’s your mind trying to trick you on non-existent things.
77. Meditate.
78. Go to that one place, meet that one friend, call that one person, send that one message, make that one trip, get out there and do the things.
79. What works for others, doesn’t have to work for you.
80. Life can change completely in a blink of an eye.
81. There is nothing wrong in asking for help.
82. Love yourself. For real. Not for the media.
83. DO THINGS FOR YOU!
84. Money comes and money will go. It’s an energy flow.
85. Get out of your comfort zone.
86. Express yourself however feels best for you.
87. You have no idea how much you affect someone’s life (positive or negatively).
88. Give yourself a good hug. We always need one. It’s nice if you have someone who can give them to you, but even if you have someone, give one to yourself too from time to time… this is one of the biggest acts of love to your system.
89. YES EAT THAT DONUT!
90. Everything is made out of a balance.
91. Stand in the caos. If you fall, rise back up when you are ready.
92. Search for different communities.
93. Think on how to make it happen and go for it.
94. Self confidence helps you more than what you think it does. It comes from within yourself.
95. Having little meaningful relationships is more valuable than lots of loose ones.
96. No one is going to do it for you.
97. People are too busy thinking about themselves. You are too busy thinking about you.
98. Make time for the things you love.
99. Do the shadow work!
100. In the end, embrace your humanness. Imperfect, with flaws, and with lots of positive attributes too.
101. EXTRA ONE, everything shows it’s fruits in the end. Putting in the hard work is worth it. Become unrecognizable to yourself! In a good way… and everything you put in, bounces back to you.
Best for the new year coming and happy Christmas or Hanukkah, or whatever you celebrate (or not 😉 )
I love you
I send you love and light always
Milena Bátiz
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Ugh Milena seriously you’re amazing 🥺 We surprisingly got to see each other twice this year (the first was pretty sad #fcovid but the second one: fire) which doesn’t seem like a lot to many people but i’m actually very grateful. I have learned so much from you and your growth. I wanted to list the things you learned that impacted me the most but they are so many. You inspire me to be free and authentic. Congratulations on life, honestly. You’re rocking it. So is this blog, love it more each time! Happy New Year honey 🙂