Listen up!
I know it sounds crazy, but I honestly started wondering about this a couple of months ago…
I saw this TikTok from a girl who was explaining how she was confused with her sexuality, jara jara jara…
She was explaining how she was starting to think, realize, and identify herself as a pansexual person because she would fall for people’s personality and for who they are as a person.
For those of you who don’t know what being pansexual means, here is a definition:
Pansexuality is sexual, romantic, or emotional attraction towards people regardless of their sex or gender identity. Pansexual people may refer to themselves as gender-blind, asserting that gender and sex are not determining factors in their romantic or sexual attraction to others.
wikipedia.org
Well, now, looking at it, one might think, and say to oneself: ‘I don’t necessarily like all genders’.
This is fine!
Not everyone does.
I’m looking at it from another perspective.
Not that we all like all genders (cause that’s not real! Each to their own 🙂 ).
If people who identify as pansexuals fall for people regarding their sex, well, maybe the rest of us end up in a similar trail as them…
Which can make us become a ‘kind’ of pansexuals, or honestly just humanistic nature.
People fall for other people without really minding the physical aspect…
Yes, come on, we have all seen a hot or cute guy or girl in the library or supermarket, but that’s it.
In a way, that is very vague and superficial.
Yeah they look good and honestly, good for them.
Definitely, physically looking good can be a magnet and attract people who are also ‘hot’ or ‘cute’.
This way of looking at things, I find it to be very vague.
Humans don’t fall for others because of a big butt, or a six pack.
Physical aspects fade away. Everything that is physical, fades.
Truly finding meaning in someone else, goes beyond looks and aesthetic aspects.
Connection between people goes beyond that.
How one feels around the person, goes beyond that.
Deciding to spend and share time with that person goes beyond.
It is not looks what we look for, but pure connection between us!
We have lost so much of it these days. We don’t connect as we once did.
We fall, not all, but many do, for SUCH materialistic and superficial aspects of people.
This is not real love.
This is pure convenience.
Deciding to spend time with someone ‘simply because they are hot’ is meaningless.
They can have a shit personality with Ryan Gosling’s face. AND?
Now what?
You are stuck with some shit person who has a nice face. Well, too bad!
Falling for looks is tricky and takes us nowhere.
It’s mere superficiality, not connection.
Having both is great as well! Having none… well… I don’t know about that…
We constantly forget what truly matters when interacting and getting to meet someone. I find this sort of sad, not going to lie.
‘There are so many people with which one can be with, but so little with which we can be.’
Finding someone with which one can truly be, is so precious these days… it’s so hard to find somehow… even more now in the world we live in!
This is why I asked myself this since watching that TikTok…
Maybe in some way, we all kind of are a little pansexual, in our own way, when falling for someone.
We eventually stop minding about some physical aspects. They begin to come as second.
No one stays for that… love, respect, tolerance, appreciation, devotion, has to be in both of them, and FOR both as well.
This is born from a fusion in both’s being. The people they really are. Not who they seem to be.
So maybe yeah… maybe we kind of all are someway or another…
This is what makes us special and unique at the end of the day – as human beings, and what adds value to our own life.
Think about it… I invite you to do so!
Share your idea on this topic in the bottom comment section! You are free to do so!
*If you think this is some non-sense for any reason, or don’t find the connection in all of the small blog post, try to take this as a metaphor ;).
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Have a wonderful week, as well as, end of the year!
I send you love and light always!
I love you
Milena Bátiz
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hey Milena! it’s great to hear from your blog again. this is such an interesting perspective and if i remember correctly, i had some conversations about this exact topic with you some years ago. anyway, i agree w you! even on a deeper level like, we’re all essentially pansexuals (even though it’s a label and the way you love other doesn’t really fit into one… ). i like what you say about materialistic things fading away when you create a deeper connection w someone, it’s completely true that love goes beyond that. but there’s one thing i think can change things a little bit that is: sex. i don’t think everyone is sexually attracted to people beyond their gender, it plays an important role in terms of connection. that’s a little out of topic, but anyway, i think there’s a term for what you’re mostly talking about here which is panromantic. idk look into it if you want and lmk what you think. love you so much and miss you❤️❤️ sending you light back